Insights | Technical Counseling

Reflections on therapy, growth, and how understanding systems — emotional or otherwise — can help us find steadiness.

I come to psychotherapy with an analytical background, and I often think about how structure, clarity, and curiosity support emotional healing. In this space, I write about the deeper patterns that shape our lives — how we relate to ourselves, to others, and to change itself.

Some posts draw on clinical ideas from my work with clients. Others reflect on broader questions: what it means to live with awareness, to hold boundaries with compassion, or to stay connected when life feels uncertain.

My goal is to share insights that help make therapy — and self-understanding — a little clearer, steadier, and more human. I plan to post a new entry approximately once a month.

Understanding the Gaslighting of Technology: A Therapist's Perspective on Digital Disconnection

As a therapist and small-business owner who works almost entirely from iPads, I’m often forced to interact with systems that quietly don’t support the tools I actually use. That’s not a minor annoyance—it’s a real source of stress, pain, and self-doubt for many people who rely on technology. This post is about naming that pattern for what it is: gaslighting. You’ve probably seen the phrase: “This experience is not optimized for your device.” On the surface, it sounds harmless

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Dec 55 min read

When a Part Wants to Do Harm

A part wanting to do harm A common challenge in Internal Family Systems (IFS) work is when a person has a part that pushes them toward a behavior they don’t actually want to do. This might be a part that wants to lash out at a spouse, or another that urges self-harm. I’ve found an approach that helps my or their core Self engage with these parts in a way that moves the person away from acting on the impulse — while still respecting and connecting with the part that carries it

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Oct 241 min read